“No one is actually dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away…” – Terry Pratchett
Dearest Darling,
It can feel suffocating to be different and even more stifling to constantly hide that difference from the world, always pretending to be anything but who you are. I can imagine how utterly lonely depression must feel for you darling. I know you must feel like maybe you’re wasting space and once you leave, the world could be a happy place without the shadows you imagine you cast everywhere you go. I can imagine you isolate yourself so that no one knows how ‘strange’ you really are because you feel like they couldn’t possibly understand the depth that is ‘you’ so why bother? I’ve heard that you sometimes feel physical pain when you try to do everyday things like shower, eat, work, interact; basically live. I can imagine that when you try to see the future you never go past a few minutes because you don’t think you have the capacity to amount to anything and even if you could, you simply don’t have the strength to. I can imagine you seek escape in drugs, alcohol and even cutting yourself when you feel ‘dark’; but darling; can you see how temporary that ‘escape’ is? Don’t you always come right back to yourself?
I can also imagine you not only surviving but thriving. Darling do you know that you are gifted? That you are talented than most? You know the place you escape to in your head when the world becomes much; do you know that the world you exist in would love to read about it or see it? When you spend enough time alone and your only companions are the voices in your head, you learn to be your own source of entertainment. You have narratives in your head that can be put to script, you have visions in your head that can be put on a canvas, you have words in your mouth that can be put together as poetry. Darling; do you know that you still have the power to change your story? When things get so bad; CREATE. Pour that darkness into your hands and create something; take up a craft that you can throw yourself into when you feel low and just keep creating and releasing the inner you. You’ve got to listen to the beat of your heart, what’s it saying to you?
There is no need to romanticize death; i can imagine it is dark, sad and lonely; why replace one form of loneliness for another? All will not be well in the world if you leave; there’ll still be global crisis but have you imagined how many thousands of pieces your mother’s heart could break into? Have you imagined the silence that will follow if you left? The guilt everyone would feel over what they could have done differently? Do you know that some people around you could be devastated so much that they never recover? Do you know that by killing yourself you give the people around you courage to do it also? Can you imagine your little brother killing himself months after you leave because he had a bad day?
“Shine so brightly that you illuminate a pathway for others to see their way out of darkness…….” -Dr. Stacey A.
It’s not ok to kill yourself my love. You try to LIVE. One day at a time, you keep trying. You find a silver lining and you follow the trail until you find who you are or who you are meant to be. Stay. For your family, friends, admirers, lovers(past, present, future), for the people you are yet to meet, the experiences that are yet to happen, for the people you could inspire and help by sharing your story, for yourself, for who you could become; stick around and find out honey. Find someone to talk to. You’ll be surprised who is willing to not only listen to you but to help you also. What ripple do you plan to leave behind when you do go? STAY. FIGHT. LIVE. SURVIVE. THRIVE.
DARLING, IT’S NOT OK TO KILL YOURSELF.
Suicide may or may not end the chances of things getting worse; but it most definitely eliminates the possibility of things ever getting better.
“You needn’t die happy when your time comes, but you must die satisfied, for you have lived your life from the beginning to the end …”
—Stephen King
STAY.
Love x Light,
N.
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